Help, How do I Transform My Husband’s Passive Aggression?
Transforming Passive Aggression Coaching Module
It’s not easy to have a confrontation with your husband…first because not being ready to accept responsibility makes him more prone to denial and angry responses, and second because you don’t feel so confident in your own skills. You feel too hurt to be able to confront him and the list of issues you have been collecting is so long!
What is the task? It looks like you know already what you want to happen, right?
You are always thinking how to confront him with grace; perhaps dreaming of the method that could make him pay attention, understand the challenge and accept his share of ownership of the akward distance and silence between you both.
Here and now, you need to know that upright confrontation will fail. Are you ready to use some other suggestions? Perhaps you could be so brave as to start the broken conversation and say something to him. I know, you two are already not talking, but it would do miracles to soften the situation if you say a simple “thanks” for anything he does around.
Here is this alternative view of your situation: Instead of being the sullen, negative guy you perceive, please try to see him as a terrified and scared person. He knows already that he is losing you…
Because he doesn’t know how to manage you and your expectations about the relationship, (and of course can’t ask somebody else for help!), his only resource is anger! Remember that he has a nasty and resentful inner child inside… always yearning for some crumbs of attention. If you can muster your courage and say something positive to him, not related to any issue in dispute now, simply “thanks,” (because he brings in the groceries, opens a door, or turns off a light, etc) it will de-escalate the tension and soften a bit your fear and dread of being in the house with him.
Remember, do it only if you feel that it will give you the power to regulate the animosity between you two…as an experiment to learn different and unexpected ways of reaching to his inner child scared of loss. After a time of this treatment, you will find the way to talk with him about his unwanted behavior…and the impact of that behavior on you.
At this point, you are wondering what else is in the bag of my suggestions to manage his passive aggression? A lot more, as you can image!
I have designed the “Transforming Passive Aggression Coaching Module,” with personal situations like yours in mind. As you can imagine, this Coaching Module is just what you can apply to your situation and see the transformation of the relationship quality happening soon!
Meanwhile, you are doing the first step mentioned -appreciating something in his behavior- without expectations, in a detached mood, as to see what are the little changes appearing in the interaction…Think of building your own reserves of self-esteem. The rest of the time, plan nice activities for yourself: go to the park, to church, to watch a good movie, take some time to do something that is only fun. You deserve a break!
All the time, remember to breathe! There is a way out: you will find your own way out of this situation, applying the “Transforming Passive Aggression Coaching Module” suggestions and unconditional support provided to you every step of the way.
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