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"The Tao of Anger": How to manage anger in your relationships.
"Turn Conflicts
Into Love": Handle conflict wisely and watch your love grow.
"Recovering from Passive Aggression": How to heal after a passive aggressive relationship.
"Healing
Emotional Abuse": How to heal after emotional abuse.
Now in Kindle Format!
"How to Fight Fair in Your Marriage and Win."
5 Steps To A Healthier Marriage
April 23, 2011 – 8:44 am
What is the Cost of Emotional Conflict?
March 25, 2011 – 2:34 pm
We invite you to watch the “Cost of emotional conflicts” chart. Conflict that is left to fester or is ignored can only create more pain for you and the people around you. Coaching is a simple solution that can reverse the effects of emotional conflicts, and prevent them from destroying your important relationships.
What is Conflict Coaching?
December 15, 2010 – 9:04 pm
Probably you are already knowledgeable about what coaches do? They can provide direct and usable suggestions on planning your life or work situation. But what happens if now you are stuck in a personal conflict that prevents you from managing your choices and planning your life? That is exactly the moment you need a conflict coach!
I focus on coaching people going through difficult, even painful experiences of interpersonal conflict: perhaps women and men at the peak of their professional lives, who can understand the basic dynamics of their difficult interactions either they be at work and home, and learn strategies to manage them with inner strength and compassion.
This conflict coach is prepared to help you navigate the most frustrating situations in your life using her lifetime experience as a clinical family therapist, mediator, conflict management expert and organizational consultant.
If your usual style of conflict management is either denial or avoidance, it’s time to learn how to approach differences with skills and learn how to process the inevitable confrontations between people who work and live together.
Resolving frequent work confrontations:
Finding a way to rescue a lost situation: where long term enemies need to be part of an important project, and you are the leader.
Crucial confrontations: when you need to confront someone about broken promises or missed commitments, and are unsure of how to stay focused and manage your emotions.
Negotiating from a position of less power: how to negotiate for salary, benefits, workload, responsibilities and recognition when you are unsure of your own power and value.
Resolving frequent interpersonal confrontations:
Issues with your image: how to deal with others, without mishandling your emotions and coming off as unpredictable, hostile, or inconsistent. Learn to recognize your buttons and how to control yourself when people push them.
Confronting loved ones: how to adjust the tune of respect and appreciation in your marriage, regardless of the past conflict history.
Tell us which skill you need to improve now.
How to Deal With Emotional Turmoil
November 19, 2010 – 6:16 pm
Conflict-seeking people have mastered all your emotional buttons, and they push them with regularity. Here, we want to remember that it takes two to tango.
When you are ready to deny them the drama and adrenaline rush (by behaving calmer and less reactive in stressful situations) they initially react very negatively, almost as if they are going through a drug withdrawal.
In fact it is possible that when you first become calmer, they may escalate the shouting in the short term. If you are patient and persevere in this non-engagement mindset, this will change in the long term.
What strategies can you use with a person who loves to and needs to have a dispute with you?
- Never yell back, not matter how upset or angry the other person might be; detach emotionally;
- The more their voice goes up, the more you whisper;
- If you feel the situation gets out of control, just escape to a safer place (the bathroom, a long walk);
- Be a good listener and parrot back what they tell you, but in a softer voice;
- Say that you really want to understand their needs;
- If you are going to work with him, there must be a calmer environment, so the person has to stop yelling.
So, even when the other person has a volatile tendency to start emotional battles, the issue resides on your capacity to detach and keep your cool. That’s real personal power!
Now, if you are feeling that you would like to give coaching a try, a two months coaching plan can give you the tools to quiet amid turmoil…get you peace back with my help! We can begin by you having a complimentary consultation (by clicking here), then having reviewed your conflict map, we will have a plan for action with skills learning included! To Start Today, And See Results By Next Week, Just send your Email and you will be in your way to a new life!